Look around the eyes… final bit

A while ago I wrote the first two parts of this blog concerning hypnobirthing. Well, at 11.15pm Friday our daughter was born. The proof, as they say, is in the pudding.

Throughout the course and in discussions over the past several weeks we’d been imagining what the birth would be like; calm, quiet, peaceful. Reality often gets in the way of plans. On the day of the birth my wife went into labour at such a rapid pace all thoughts of ‘setting the mood’ seemed to fly out of the window. The birthing pool was rapidly filled and the Mrs jumped into it as soon as possible.

There was no time to go through the long (and sometimes giggle-inducing) hypnosis scripts. No time to prepare the ‘deepening triggers’ which focus the mind on things other than pain/discomfort. Basically, no time to do much that was planned.

I can’t speak for the level of discomfort encountered during the contractions but I can comment on the lack of Holby city-like theatrical screaming. No nails dug into flesh. No swearing and telling me to keep away. The sounds were lower, quieter, more controlled than TV leads you to believe.

The midwives arrived and came into the birthing room (or kitchen, as we call it the rest of the time). At this stage the contractions were rapid and strong.

All of a sudden, the baby’s head appeared, in the next push she was out. Medical interventions -nil. Doing it nature’s way -one. Incredible. Amazing. From the rapid, controlled labour, to the self-delivered baby quite an experience.

How much was to do with Hypnosis, and the focus on relaxed breathing, I can’t say. It would be unscientific to declare this a victory for Hypnosis and alternative techniques. It is, however, a victory for doing your own research and finding out that accepted medical practice is often better for the Doctors than it is for the mothers. -Lying on your back is, short of a hand-stand, about the worst position to deliver a baby. -Useful for the medics who wish to intervene, but anatomically awkward to deliver a baby. The birthing pool allows the mother to be more upright and thus have gravity on side and the pressure of the water as a support.

About lordyosch

Dad, Husband, School teacher

Posted on July 11, 2010, in Birth stories. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. Interesting to read your perspective… and not *too* dissimilar to mine. I think that probably a lot of the labour was dismissed merely as “niggles” because I was relaxed and using the breathing techniques we had learned from very early on, and welcoming the impending birth rather than dreading it. From my point of view, hypnobirthing wasn’t about giving birth whilst listening to whalesong and gazing at a candle flame. It was about preparedness, and confidence in your own abilities. These were things which I developed by the bucketload during the pregnancy, and I think that the fact that neither of us was freaked out by the non-appearance of the midwives at the point at which I could feel Sophie’s head approaching the exit is testament to the levels of both. As you say, whether this was down to the hypnobirthing course, the amazing support given by Alison Brown at the BRI and my friends at Bradford Choices, or a combination of all of the above, is impossible to say. I just feel that hypnobirthing was an important component and as such it was worth every penny!

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